Every so often I express some frustration in terms of my inability to push my life into a higher point but what is that point and if I reach it am I not forcing myself again to be something else or is this the natural force that one has power over. Instead of being forced into just sustaining oneself , which include ones bills, relationships and body. There is a choice you can make to force yourself completely out of this situation or be forced into a situation. There must be a way to to level out the way we all force ourselves to be something and the way we are forced to be defined. Where is the line between, who you were forced to be compared to what you are trying to naturally forced yourself to become or achieve.
This awareness of ones worth is not usually utilized by the masses, its corrupting to have dreams or aspirations. When one hears of goals that seem farfetched for whatever reason, one submits that individual to being held within a state of denial of ones actuality or reality; meaning due to ones economic or social class, in reference to finances, education, appearance as well as age. A person or group may not believe that individuals ability to reach a certain point of potential. This inability to sustain ones aspirations makes one settle for a much more controlled and simplified every day existence in order to avoid rejection and failure. When a culture believes in being automatically satisfied in a instant, I would imagine dreams being avoided.
Instant and simultaneously instant gratification is a functioning social dilemma that plagues many different groups of people. People go to great lengths to find this and that usually leads them to life that is forced upon them. Human affection is the first dilemma one discovers during adolescence, the main goal of most individuals despite whatever hope or dream they have is to be cared for and this is one of the first ways we realize how to instantly gratify this feeling. This need grows more and more as one enters adulthood and depending on various personal and environmental factors an individual may desire short term instances of affection or continuous long-term interactions; that are carried out in various ways.
As one grows up they act out certain roles that gain them affection from an individual or group; they will act intelligent, vindictive, athletic, artistic, diplomatic or any other extreme that is opposite of any role that may or could exist within any interaction, one on one or within a group. The opposite side is when a group of individuals come together and become a collective consciousness; where they all act similar and like the same things and that makes them battle for the same roles constantly, which would make many push themselves in various directions in order to dominate and win the affection of the group, which will satisfy this need of affection and instant gratification from various peers or friends.
This may seem like a melodramatic introduction to psychology but we must take into account that the the way one establishes his/her social role with various individuals or groups within early and late adolescence, establishes a social schema that most people will perform throughout their lives. This is an example of how one becomes forced into a situation in order to obtain something ( ex. friends, intimate partners) etc. Is this an example of being forced or is this the natural force we use in order to obtain. The cost here is the sense of actual self, the behavior within a group or even a pair of individuals . These interactions of affection can be given in various ways, it can be more contact with a particular person, it can be physical attention one obtains from another or is can be from the way the other individual mimics certain behavior patterns in order to be recognized. Everyone in the group is striving to survive and sustain themselves in the group. Either way this is an example of how we force people to be a certain way with each other, due to our behavior we are forcing these emotions out of people and the more a person becomes aware of this the more their individual behavior pattern will become permanent. The same goes for those who are ignored, some go out of their way, some are simply unadaptable and others just crave the rare form of attention that is given to them, due to the fact that they are ignored. Depending on how this impacts them on a larger social scale when talking to other peers or family members, their personal mindset could manifest in various dominant and recessive ways.
In any social relationship there comes a point, when ones primary social interactions decay or sustain and continue. This is a breaking point for any individuals, many live off this particular kind of interacting or affection given to one by a particular person or group. When one is unable to re-obtain the person or people that perform this task for him/her. Ones personality maybe forced to become something other than its previous counterpart or it will push itself to re-adapt to any individual or group in range. Some people remain the exact same way and hope to find those that can be similar to previous interactions but if none is found a change will come. An individual is able to survive extreme situations and if they are not able to get a form of instant gratification, the way interacting with a person or group does they will strive for characteristics that will help them obtain what they desire again, whether it be in negative or positive way.
There are those however, who never felt sustained by a group or person and never felt that the temporary affection, whether it be long term or short term is enough for their sense of self and purpose of for-filling desires. Many of these individuals forfeit themselves to something else, this is when an individual may decide a new type of life style all together. Depending on whatever factors are in that persons mindset, they will seek a goal that will either attach them to something larger than themselves or something much smaller. Primary and secondary achievements and instant gratification may not work for them, so they are more willing to take a longer road, more willing to strive. Like anything else this is not always true, many individuals who are able to sustain a particular life style by interacting with various people and groups continuously from the past and present, are able to strive for long term goals, because they have been able to sustain their needs and desires emotionally and socially.
The force that exist in order for us to function in society is a constant reminder of individual worthlessness and frailty. Again this is all instant gratification, every response depicted is a way to interact to be put into focus. When you sit back and critique why a person does anything its set into motion this concept of ideal force, this need to be socially interacted with, to be instantly gratified. The social necessities established by various cultures in particular American have us geared towards obtaining attention, recognition and affection from others not ourselves. This is a force that delays ourselves from ever growing into something more. We become defined in order to a part of something temporary in order to feed our instant needs. Anything can define this delay, a job, a relationship being a friendship or other, a new television show. The way one must rebuild and reorganize their social construction and personal principles may lead to a path that may delay or negate all of ones regular interactions, perhaps temporarily or indefinitely.
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