Perception of reality ( the personal context)

Can I form a concept that is outside, what is previously defined its almost impossible. The reaction to my self is this means of creating something " other". The idea that something is separate from this reality is hard to do or hard to prove or hard to obtain. The means that I seek in order to live outside social norms, is completely new to me. It's difficult to make someone see that you live outside of what they perceive as reality. I seek reality to be my own and to be molded by myself only but unfortunately everyone has their own perception of reality and the truth about the reality they live in. As I said before pain is known as pain, hurt is known as hurt, abuse is seen as abuse as the same thing for many people. However the perception of what people allow themselves to find themselves being abused or hurt or in pain is different. Every individual has a emotional plateau about the same thing everyone else experiences that are unique to one another and the way they believe the fact that they are experiencing these feelings takes a certain amount of time, for them to acknowledge this truth. It's very difficult to see this as reality or a truth or a emotion you are feeling. This will continue !?